Author: mr

I used to think I’d be happier if I could be really rich and successful. And there is a bit of truth to that. As we gained some wealth, certain difficulties did go away and we were happier. But not actually happier. More like… less unhappy. I had space to thrive but I wasn’t thriving.…

Growing – developing. We often think of growth as a logical or linear progression. We get bigger. We increase in strength. We do _more_ of whatever it is we are already doing. But there is another model of growth that can be helpful. Transformation. Transformative growth is not simply doing more of something you already…

Nothing to report, except that we are still searching for a business to buy. We’re getting educated, we’re narrowing our focus, we’re practicing our searching abilities.

This is the year I buy my first business. Why buy? Running businesses have revenue on day one, which means after the purchase, you could just do that, instead of keeping your existing job and trying to do both at the same time. And then when it scales up to running without you (the main…

As I look back over the last year, I realize that a lot of it was about fighting burnout. “Can I keep doing this, over and over again?” “Where is this all headed?” Granted, I didn’t get huge outcomes from this work. But I did start rediscovering my agency. And I started seeing places where…

Having gotten nowhere and somewhere at the same time. Ending up in the same place, but perhaps being more grateful for it. We had a lot of fun last year. We went to France. We tried some things. I finally got a promotion at work. Yet, I still feel the call to go on to…

I’ve been exploring IFS (Internal Family Systems) and discovering it has an awful lot that makes sense (at least experientially), although perhaps it’s a bit crazy in terms of an actual description of what a person really is. But the one thing that really resonates is when we have a lot of internal points of…

The fear that we’ll be successful! What a wild idea! But what does success, really big success, do for us? It cuts us right out of the life we know, and into the adventure of life, a life that we cannot even begin to control. A life of grace, a life of being on the…

I’ve been considering this question with a new lens. Sometimes, who we need to be in order to accomplish our goals is someone quite different than who we are now. I personally would love to be able to flip a switch internally and suddenly act out of a new way of being. But this is…

I have my second entrepreneur coaching client starting this week. And my first has been going well, with lots of performance breakthroughs, and lots of progress. In my own life, I’ve started coming up against the very deep personal issues that define the territory everyone must eventually go through in order to really master themselves.…

I’m building a coaching business. We got back from France, and we loved it. We’re going to go again, God willing, and the mrs is learning the art of venoisserie from the French baking book. I’m continuing to get over my crazy, and learning to be peaceful. The question is when do I want to…

We are now in the middle-to-end of a 3 week trip in Europe, we are on an adventure with our family. The mrs bought tickets, and we suddenly had to get lodging, trains, and some new clothes for everyone (because we hadn’t been getting out of the house enough). What could life be like if…

I was hoping this blog was going to be a place for mrs and I to reflect on our year together as it happened. And that there would be huge things to report at the end of the year. And there are some big things that have happened. There’s been massive shifts, and I may…

I’m not being consistent with this blog, because it no longer represents to me what I want to do on an ongoing basis. However, what I have gotten from the experience of coaching is this: I am free. I can do this or I can do that, and I don’t need to make up a…

I did an exercise yesterday, where I placed myself in the future where I already had what I needed. I already accomplished what I wanted. “You already have freedom. Now what do you do?” “You already have friends and community. Now what do you do?” “Your health is amazing. Now what do you do?” “Your…

This journey has not been without benefits. But centrally, at the core, something is not working. That something is me. I’m not making this thing happen. Why? There is still a story, deep down inside, a rehearsed and well-trodden path, that I am allowing to color my perceptions. Every day, when you feel “tired” and…

I’ve been avoiding the critical tasks, critical conversations, critical activities for starting a business. It’s really simple – find a customer. But instead of all that, I’ve been doing a lot of other activities that are like that but not that. When you find yourself drifting away from what you were going to do, do…

Recently, I have been grieving the loss of a child who I will never get to hold. And when I think about this child who never got to be born, who died just a month into her short life on this planet, I think about all the things that will never happen as a result…

Where is your focus? On the thing you are doing, or on figuring out if you’re doing the thing you’re doing well? On the outcome you want, or on how you look when you’re trying to get there? Simply being mindful and present, and removing your thoughts from the situations in which they shouldn’t be…

Reading about TBOLITNFL got me thinking about “Who I am” again. It’s a really interesting thing. Our future is created by the actions we take today. Now. What we do now happens because of how the situations around us occur to us. What looks possible. Part of what is possible comes from who we are.…